The End.
Oh shit. What a day. It started innocently enough.
An explosive arguement broke out in the afternoon. A hastily packed suitcase. An evening spent brooding on a train. Hugs from my mother on the other side of the country.
So much for Relationship Game. If Athol Kay and Keoni Galt can make their marriages work then I take my hat off to them. If I made one big mistake it was a simple failure to screen for the right woman in the first place.
I gave Jane a second chance in the new year. She blew it. Every man has his line in the sand. Only so many warnings can be given. If she crosses the line am I meant to draw another? And another? And another?
Stick a fork in me. I’m done. Not just with Jane, but with LTRs as well. If being alone means living in modest circumstances then so be it. I’ll manage.
I’ll definitely continue blogging. Just not with the “workshy joe” handle. Jane knew about my writing from the get-go so I need a clean break. The manosphere hasn’t seen the last of me. I’ll be back soon with a new handle to match my new circumstances.
I’ll see you on the other side.
Average Cohabiting Chump 
June 11, 2011 at 03:16
Well, first, sorry to hear your pain, but If she crossed a line, whatever it was, and you called it quits, congrats. So congrats, bro. Ending a bad thing is a good thing. You have been sort of hinting this for a while ( that fleshlight comment)
“So much for Relationship Game.”
You cant “game” a woman into her senses. Game helps you deal with her, but it wont change her. So you are right, first step is to really, really screen the shit out of her before committing.
“I’m done. Not just with Jane, but with LTRs as well.”
Meh. I have said the same. I will probably say it again.
Take it easy bro.
June 11, 2011 at 05:14
Thanks man. I’ll message you soon when I have a new handle, blog, etc.
June 23, 2011 at 22:51
Hit me up too.
June 11, 2011 at 03:58
Will you be taking your blogs down?
Good luck dude.
June 11, 2011 at 15:21
No, I’ll leave both the old blogs up.
I’ll just start with a new handle and a new blog. I’ll email you when I’m up and running again.
Thanks man.
June 11, 2011 at 05:49
This really sucks, Joe 😦
I hope you bounce back soon – and of course, when you do, we’ll be here 🙂
June 11, 2011 at 15:14
Thanks man.
I’m turning the page, so to speak. Its a new chapter.
June 11, 2011 at 05:57
Sucks to hear that, but i second Yohami’s words, there comes a time when you have to call it off and walk away because that’s the best choice.
June 11, 2011 at 15:24
Yes, he’s right.
But you’re not losing one blog – you’re gaining another 😉
June 11, 2011 at 07:09
Good luck Joe…you have to remember that no matter what you do, how hard you try and how much effort you put forth, it still takes her to respond and put forth her own effort too.
My marriage only works because she wants it to work too…but she could change her mind at any time as women are want to do.
Best of luck..
June 11, 2011 at 15:25
That’s true. Its definitely a two-way street. I’ll email you when I’m up and running again.
June 11, 2011 at 10:45
My sympathies, man. Ending even a bad relationship is never easy. Best wishes.
June 11, 2011 at 15:14
Thanks dude.
June 11, 2011 at 14:25
Joe, I understand. Take heart. Survival and not putting up with shit are good objectives.
June 11, 2011 at 15:29
That’s true. I’ve learned so much from the guys in the manosphere. My mindset is so much healthier than the last time I was single.
June 11, 2011 at 19:06
If I was a woman and you were a woman and I was consoling you about the demise of the relationship, I’d rev up my hamster and then I’d say, “It is not YOU it is HIM. It is his loss and he didn’t deserve you anyway. You will find a much better man that is worthy of you. In fact I never liked him anyway, but I didn’t say that because I didn’t want to hurt your feelings. Men are so difficult and good men are so hard to find. Even what looks like a good man often turns out to be a pig. But I just know that you will find Mr. Right next time. You go Girl!”
In fact Jane’s friends are telling this to Jane now.
June 11, 2011 at 19:12
Perhaps that’s the key point here, from a healthier mindset you’re more likely to find a healthier relationship, do as Yohami says, screen for BS harder now that you can identify it with far more ease than before, good luck man, we’ll be here when you return.
June 11, 2011 at 19:40
Thanks guys.
June 11, 2011 at 22:26
CSPB brings up something interesting. Maybe we could take a page from women´s playbook.
I´m looking forward to Joe 3.0 too.
Oh, if Roosh can live in his dad´s basement, can you live in mom´s? Might make life a little easier.
June 12, 2011 at 22:30
@Bobby: I got the spare room. Yeah baby!
June 13, 2011 at 16:01
Remember, since society gives you no little or no value for these things; avoid marriage, mortgages, children and stable careers forever. You are Kay Hymowitz worst nightmare
June 13, 2011 at 21:23
Definitely. Even more so now that I’m not even co-habiting!
June 11, 2011 at 15:35
Joe:
Good on you! Your comment about screening for the right woman is so spot on, and, as in chess, rather than pushing a bad position, better to resign and come back resilient and better educated.
I’d say good luck, but it’s not just that is it? 😉
June 11, 2011 at 19:43
You’re right. Its not luck. We make our own luck. Thanks man.
June 11, 2011 at 16:10
I’m really sorry to hear this, Joe. It’s smart to kill what doesn’t work, but it doesn’t make it any less painful. Looking forward to Joe 3.0
June 11, 2011 at 19:44
You’ll love Joe 3.0 – he’s awesome 😉
Thanks man.
June 11, 2011 at 23:14
He already sounds charming and confident.
June 11, 2011 at 18:02
Sorry to here that Joe, its never the end, just the next step.
June 11, 2011 at 19:46
True. I’ll send you an email when the new blog is up.
June 11, 2011 at 20:03
Break ups are never easy, Joe. I’m sorry to hear it happened. Sometimes, things don’t work out.
Your situation makes me think of teaching middle graders. When a student breaks a rule, despite numerous warnings and explanations of consequences, you HAVE to act. You HAVE to discipline them. You can’t, like you said, “draw another line in the sand”. You have to have your convictions.
Give it time, and you’ll feel better.
June 12, 2011 at 22:32
Thanks man.
As this is the second break-up with the same woman I’m not so sentimental about it.
I’m looking to the future optimistically.
June 11, 2011 at 20:12
Damn, bro. Good Luck.
Looking forward to your new blog.
June 12, 2011 at 22:17
Dude, you’ll love the new blog. I’ll email you soon.
June 11, 2011 at 21:07
sorry man. C’est la vie
June 12, 2011 at 22:18
Thanks man.
June 11, 2011 at 23:01
I’m sorry to hear about your relationship and the end of this blog. I’ve really enjoyed your writing for the past few weeks and I’d like to read your new one when it’s up. I assume you won’t be announcing it here, how will I find it?
Game wise, wouldn’t it be a better idea to let her continue to know about your exploits through your blog? Promote a little jealousy and regret
June 12, 2011 at 22:38
Ohhhh. That would be harsh!
If I did that, there would be some serious blowback. I don’t want to rub her nose in it. 😉
Keep an eye on the manosphere and watch out for hot new bloggers!
June 12, 2011 at 01:43
No problem, if she’s ready to leave after *one* argument she probably wasn’t worth keepin’ in the first place.
(The only difference is, 20-30 years ago, *everyone* in society would have been telling you this; today, it’s only the manosphere)
Good hunting, and let me know of your next blog
June 12, 2011 at 22:40
Oh no, I left her!
She claims that this has all come out of the blue, but I’ve warned her plenty of times about her behaviour and she just ignored what I said.
June 12, 2011 at 06:18
Stiff upper lip, WJ. This to shall pass.
June 12, 2011 at 22:18
Thank you JLW.
June 12, 2011 at 09:05
Take care.
June 12, 2011 at 22:41
Thanks Rob.
June 12, 2011 at 09:28
Sucks but glad to hear you went out like a champ. Hit me up with your new blog/twitter handle when you get it set up.
June 12, 2011 at 22:19
You betcha. Not long now!
June 12, 2011 at 10:00
[…] Workshy Joe – “The Plight of the Unsexy Man“, “No Bromide Required“, “Reader Suggestion: Arranged Marriages“, “The End.” […]
June 12, 2011 at 12:14
Joe, didn’t we talk about this feeling of fake security. Well here it is.
June 12, 2011 at 22:20
Indeed. Its like I knew that there was something shifty and impermanent about it all along.
June 12, 2011 at 18:17
Sad to hear that Workshy. Best of luck.
June 12, 2011 at 22:21
Thanks man. Hats off to you for finding the right girl btw!
June 12, 2011 at 22:41
what did she do?
June 12, 2011 at 22:48
Oh dude, it started with such a trivial incident.
Its escalated so rapidly because she wouldn’t take responsibility for anything.
If I write down the whole story, it will sound utterly bizzare. The truth is so much stranger than fiction. Maybe I’ll tell you one day when we are both partying in Buenos Aires. 😉
June 12, 2011 at 22:52
“she wouldn’t take responsibility for anything.”
that rings like 1,000,000 bells
June 12, 2011 at 22:58
“Its escalated so rapidly because she wouldn’t take responsibility for anything.”
Trivial fights often escalate over this power struggle, or from people bringing old incidents into the fray, or both.
June 12, 2011 at 23:11
@Yohami: Yeah, its strange for guys because my first instinct is to hold my hand up and cop to misdeeds. How many women are like that?
@Badger: It was truly sickening. She wasn’t just digging a hole for herself. It was a trench. The sad thing it didn’t look like a shit test or a power-play.
She came off like a frightened child spinning some incredible yarn in a vain attempt to get out of trouble. I had never seen her sink that low.
I’ll email you btw.
June 12, 2011 at 22:57
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June 12, 2011 at 23:00
Just crosslinked you. Sorry to hear it but if it’s the right thing then all the best.
June 12, 2011 at 23:12
Thanks Badger.
June 12, 2011 at 23:01
Well, shit…
Life happens. Joe 3.0 should be a good project for you.
Hey, fly over to South Florida and I’ll show you a good time so you can forget your troubles.
June 12, 2011 at 23:14
I might just take you up on that! I should start saving for the airfare. I’ll email you btw.
June 13, 2011 at 11:16
I am sorry to hear this, Joe.
As my mother always said to me, ‘If she’s done it to you once dear, she’ll do it again’. Mother was right, but one should always give a second chance – but not a third.
June 13, 2011 at 21:10
That’s true. Thanks Opus.
June 13, 2011 at 13:12
Oh man, big changes! Transitions are so hard, but it sounds like you were very ready to make this choice. I look forward to the new blog, keep us posted.
June 13, 2011 at 21:12
That’s right. Thank you Susan. I’ll email you.
June 13, 2011 at 16:56
“But you’re not losing one blog – you’re gaining another”
funny line.
good luck bro. we are all here for you.
i know that sounded gay but you know what i mean.
June 13, 2011 at 21:13
Thanks Riv. I’ll email you man.
June 13, 2011 at 16:58
“I’ve learned so much from the guys in the manosphere. My mindset is so much healthier than the last time I was single.”
very true.
June 13, 2011 at 17:00
“If I write down the whole story, it will sound utterly bizzare. ”
you should — if only for yourself.
June 13, 2011 at 21:15
That’s a good idea. I think I’ll do that.
June 15, 2011 at 05:08
Congrats on taking the first step to making the rest of your life a hell of a lot better!
June 15, 2011 at 06:37
Nooooo! How could this happen? I’m sure she’s remorseful. Sometimes I think of all my dramas and realize that I over-react especially when I’m stressed as hell, for example,the last two weeks of my life.
Although I wanna hear all the dirt, I’m sure out of respect you won’t say much.
But if you are in love, maybe it’s worth the pain…you would never know how bad things get unless you experienced how good they could be.
Either way, I’m sure things will work out, with or without Jane…I’m excited for your new single dude game guide, I guess ur gonna be jumping back into the dating game eh?
R
June 21, 2011 at 02:58
You’re just upset because of Jane. Once you get over her you’ll be back. When you do come back let me know so I can put up your new digs. Plenty nough time for rest in the grave.
June 21, 2011 at 20:34
Sorry to hear. Best of luck.
July 20, 2011 at 21:53
Wow, just seeing this. Sorry to hear that bro. If the line was crossed then you did what you had to do. You offer great perspective on life though, so looking forward to seeing the new blog.